Jan
06

I received an email from the folks who created The Business of Being Born, and clicked over to the site. There’s a beautiful trailer, and I was cautiously hopeful.

My initial perspective was cynical – why would a celebrity like Ricki Lake choose to make a movie about birth? And if she is a person who has the means to buy good medical treatment, would her movie speak to the rest of us? As it turns out, Ricki Lake had a hospital birth for her first child, and a homebirth for her second. That made me stop and look at the documentary again. When I looked at the list of participants, I saw famed midwife Ina May Gaskin. That’s when my cynical thoughts really slowed down. Now I wish that there was a nearby Community Screening or Theatrical Release! (Which is closer to me – Nantucket or NYC?)

I had one traditional, medicated hospital birth, and then two midwife-assisted birth center births. When I was pregnant with #3 (aka LG), my husband and I weighed our options. I wanted a homebirth, he wanted to make sure I had a good midwife. We lived close to a hospital in case of an emergency, so it seemed like a good option. Unfortunately, my husband became unemployed while I was pregnant, so we could only work with practitioners who accepted the state medical insurance. Thankfully, the birth center was one of those practitioners. I had no interest in returning to a traditional hospital birth, but we didn’t have the funds to pay a homebirth midwife, either.

There were so many contrasts between my medical birth and my midwife-assisted births. With a medical birth, I dealt with whichever nurse was on call at that time, and I was alternately ignored and given too much attention (aka technology). With a midwife-assisted birth, the midwife was there the whole time helping, supporting, and chatting with me. While I wish I could have had a homebirth, the birth centers allowed me to labor in a tub or shower, have some snacks and drinks, and hold my baby before she had any kind of bathing or weighing. Those early moments are so precious, and I felt more powerful than exhausted at the end of MG’s and LG’s births!

My memories of each birth are a bit foggy, and unfortunately the server crash and hard drive crashes wiped out their birth stories. However, this quote from The Business of Being Born rang true for me and my experience in the hospital with BG:

Medical decisions are being made for legal and monetary reasons, not because they are good for the mother or the baby

I used to work with a lot of moms and newborns, and this quote also rang true for myself the moms I know:

Nothing compares to the privilege of giving life and the responsibility of that. Nothing.

There is a peace that comes from a birth that is not overly managed, and that peace leaves the mother and baby in a better physical and emotional state. Non-medicated, non-interventionist labors and deliveries can be time-consuming, whereas a planned c-section can be completed in 20-30 min.

I hope I can see the movie in the near future and write review!

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